Welcome to the Te Ara Blog.  Here, you will find a selection of short stories and opinion pieces.  Some will relate to coaching, most will touch on the topic of personal and/or professional development, and all will reflect my inner thoughts and essence.

In addition, I plan to invite guest coaches to contribute to this page.

If you have any thoughts or feedback, if you have a different opinion and would like to start a discussion, please share them as I’d love to hear what you think.


2202, 2019

Purpose and Meaning – what are yours?

By |February 22nd, 2019|Categories: Choices and Decisions, Identity & Authenticity, Uncategorised|Tags: , |

Purpose and Meaning - What is yours? Do you have a sense of purpose –do you know what it is you were put on this planet to achieve, to become? This is a question that I didn’t even think to ask myself until a few years ago, during my recovery from depression.  I realised that knowing why I am, was important for my recovery. To be authentic and true to myself and to live in a way that respected [...]

1801, 2019

External Accountability

By |January 18th, 2019|Categories: Accountability, Setting and Achieving Goals, Uncategorised|Tags: |

External Accountability I announced to my friends that I am doing the “20 by 20” challenge this year – to achieve 20 meaningful goals by the start of 2020.  I felt excited and happy as I said this … until they asked me what 20 goals I intended to achieve.  At this point, I felt my heart flutter with nervousness – I hadn’t really thought through that part of the challenge yet. This may sound odd to you, [...]

1712, 2018

Making choices: Why do we find it so challenging?

By |December 17th, 2018|Categories: Choices and Decisions, Identity & Authenticity|

Making choices: Why do we find it so challenging? I originally wrote this piece in my journal, long-hand.  I let the words flow from my pen, and was so fascinated by the story that emerged, I decided to type it up and reproduce it for you today. Dear Journal I’ve changed my pen today, putting down my green/gold Cross pen to write instead with my red/silver Cross pen. You may argue that it's not much of the change [...]

1708, 2018

Are You Fit For Purpose Today?

By |August 17th, 2018|Categories: Identity & Authenticity|

Are You Fit For Purpose Today? NLP teaches us that the person with the greatest flexibility [in their beliefs, thoughts, behaviour and expectations] is most likely to “control the system”.  And yet, we see ourselves as having a fixed identity which is separate from and independent of the environment and the relationships we are in at that time - I am who I am. In reality, we are shaped by each and every situation we find ourselves in.  [...]

2707, 2018

Listening – A True Art

By |July 27th, 2018|Categories: Listening|

Listening - A True Art A colleague reminded me the other day, we spend more time listening to reply than we do to understand. I agreed eagerly. And then thought again.  Whether I listen to reply or listen to understand, my attention is on me and not the person that I am, in theory, listening to.  Shouldn’t the speaker, from now own referred to as the thinker, be the focus of my attention? When I listen with a [...]

807, 2018

The Sound of Silence

By |July 8th, 2018|Categories: Listening|

The Sound of Silence I am a member of an amateur writers group and this flash prose was written in response to our April monthly challenge: Write 500 words inspired by Disturbed's cover version of The Sound of Silence.  I recommend that you listen to the music,  watch the video - they are amongst the most powerful I've heard/seen in recent years - and amongst the most surprising. ************* The Sound of Silence... an oxymoron, surely.  Silence is the [...]


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